desire map

desire map + yoga ... the prequil

Let’s be brutally honest, I never EVER thought I would be trading in suits, offices, and 4-inch pumps, for lulu pants, a yoga mat, and flip-flops. Never.

But let’s be clear, The Desire Map isn’t about quitting your day job, blowing up your world, or glorifying entrepreneurial life. It’s about figuring out YOU and how you truly, actually, want to feel. In every area of your life. Then making it happen.

Then making it happen (and this is big), means learning how to generate those feelings through the choices you make on the daily; doing what it takes, to feel that way. On your terms. From the seemingly mundane everyday tasks, to those big luscious, dreamy goals.

THE DRIVING FORCE - a feeling?

Once you’ve gone in, “done the work” {aka LEVEL 1} and know what your Core Desired Feelings are, the shift begins. You start seeing, creating, and aligning meaning + purpose around things you may never have noticed before, completely shifting your relationship with things, people, pursuits, and experiences.

Behind every thought, every word, every action, every goal is a desire to FEEL a certain way. It’s as simple and as complicated as that. And it’s completely unique to you.

WHO IS OLD KATE?

To help you understand why this material is so powerful, I’d like to give you a little peek into “old kate”, through this gift, this lens, we call hindsight. 

I was best described as a workaholic, perfectionist, type A, over achiever. Whatever it was, it was never enough.
Passionate, absolutely. High performance, you bet.
Content, not even close.

Only now can I see that I was on achievement auto-pilot. All pressure and proving. No awareness of what was driving the behaviour. And like any addict, over time it took more and more to get the same “high”, and the highs were less and less fulfilling. Not to mention I barely stopped long enough to acknowledge one.

All my value, my self-worth was tied up in things “out there”, outside of me. I had lost the connection TO ME, the whole me, “in here”.

So, on January 20th, 2011 when I fell down a flight of stairs and suffered a serious Traumatic Brain Injury, I was pretty certain I had lost it all. That it was over. That I was over. Everything I valued was gone. What was left?

For a time, surviving didn’t feel like much of a gift. I was convinced that my life as I knew it was over {side bar: which in a way it was, and thank god! That said, it took me many years to get here, to feel this way}.  

Here’s how I saw it at the time - if I couldn’t do that big job, climb the ranks, build a family, work crazy hours, make the big bucks, volunteer on boards AND do piles of extra curricular activities … I was a waste. I was a failure. I was broken. And what was the point.  

When in fact, I had lost the whole point.

WAKING UP - LIFE LIVED. ON PURPOSE. WITH PURPOSE.

“You have seen my decent. Now watch me rise.” - Rumi

I had to shatter into a million pieces in order to wake-up. That was MY process. I didn’t hear the whisper, the call, or even the scream. I had to literally be smacked up side the head to wake up. 

To make a very long story short, after years of rehab and every therapy you can think of, a lot of which continues to this day, I have been reborn. As me.

Like the caterpillar, I went into a cocoon, turned into goo, and through the miraculous human metamorphosis process. I underwent a massive transformation. Slowly, but surely, growing into my butterfly life.

The process of waking up. The process of designing and building and creating a LIFE LIVED. ON PURPOSE. WITH PURPOSE. Doesn’t actually have a lot to do with becoming someone new. But has everything to do with becoming YOU. It’s more of a remembering, an opening, an allowing, a coming home.

The caterpillar was always destined to become a butterfly. Just as we are destined to grow into who we really are.
It’s just not outlined in a textbook, and the cocoon process for humans doesn’t look quite the same from person to person.

THE DESIRE MAP + YOGA

This magical toolkit began unfolding, in seemingly mysterious ways, over many years. I couldn’t have predicted, prepared for, or even dreamed up how this all unraveled. Life is not a straight line, but man, am I up for the ride.

Between Yoga {capital Y yoga, which includes Meditation and so much more}, h’Art, and The Desire Map I found the clarity I was looking for. The tools I was looking for. I found peace in the process. The Desire Map helped me to unravel the layers, and ultimately to figure out how I most want to feel, to feel the way I most want to feel - in a way that is wholly liberating, nourishing, empowering, and loving.

No more pressure. No more proving. And a whole lot more living.

Today, I am determined to share what I’ve learned, to help others::

1. Prevent the fall / hitting rock bottom (literally or metaphorically), or

2. Navigate their own metamorphosis process, their own rising, their own transformation, at whatever stage they are at, and

3. Feel good in the process! To take your life back.

Together, we will embrace the clarity, truth, and liberation that comes when you tap into the driving force behind all your choices: How you want to feel.

JOIN ME - START THE JOURNEY OF A LIFETIME

Two of the big game changers for me, which are fundamental to The Desire Map process are:: 

  • Feeling good is the whole point. Can you give yourself permission to make feeling good your primary intention?
  • The journey should feel as good as (we hope) the destination will feel. Can you create a soul-nourishing, life-affirming (not soul-depleting) relationship with the pursuit of what you want?

Does this resonate? Does this stir up your mind, heart, body and/or soul at some level, at any level?

If your answer is yes, then I invite you to join me on this journey. The journey of a lifetime. Which, trust me, is elevated to the highest of heights when we go through it together. There is massive power in the collective experience.

Essentially The Desire Map brings living to life.
It unlocks your aliveness.
And is entirely liberating.

I wholeheartedly believe in living. Living life as a verb.
Life lived. On purpose. With Purpose.

At the heart of this, the whole point really, is feeling good.

Fully embodied. Aligning mind & body. Heart & Soul. Whole. Integrated. Resonating. Together.

On breath. One moment. One choice at a time.

This is Yoga after all. A match made in heaven.
What a magical brew.
The choice is up to you. I would be honoured to be your guide!

Check out katedurie.com/workshops for upcoming dates for LEVEL 1 or LEVEL 2. I also run an INTRO workshop to help light the spark to begin your journey.

xo

Did somebody say #FUELHAPPINESS

A wise person once said, "Take your P L E A S U R E seriously!"

Okay, that was actually team Lululemon, and one of the 8 limbs (tee hee) of their FUEL HAPPINESS campaign. This was their offering over the holiday season, building on the epic GIVE PRESENCE campaign from last year.

When the Ottawa Lemons shared the launch with me, I was like oh-em-gee ... not only was it divinely aligned my The Desire Map offerings + The Possibility Tribe, the HappinessHabits613 initiative (launched last summer with Manal & Amy), but it also supports + reinforces all that I stand for, how I intend to live my life on the daily, and what I set forth to offer in the world.

This stuff lights up my heart, my cells, my Soul.

WITH PURPOSE. ON PURPOSE.

This is ALL about life lived with purpose, on purpose. And not-so-much about getting tripped up in thinking that we have A PURPOSE, aka a singular purpose swirling around in the cosmos that we have to find and do and be, and the "Oh shit what is it?! I'm failing at life!" mindset that so many of us carry around. 

TAKE YOUR PLEASURE SERIOUSLY

Fun looks different for everyone.
Play looks different for everyone.
Joy looks different for everyone.

This is journey-driven, process-driven. Not about fixed or rigid goals. This is an active process. A daily process. An intentional process.

A co-creation between you and the universe, you and your mind, you and your heart, you and your body, you and your Soul/Spirit, you and the peeps you wanna co-exist with, you and the world. And it's an ever evolving work in progress, work of h'art!

In my {DESIRE MAP + YOGA} workshops we explore the notion that "feeling good is the primary intention", that feeling good is the whole deliciously divine point. Knowing how YOU want to feel is the most potent form of clarity you can have. Learning how to generate those feelings is the most powerfully creative, and quite frankly, the most powerful thing you can do in your life. 

SO, HOW CAN WE LEARN TO GENERATE OUR CORE DESIRED FEELINGS?

1. START HERE. Identify 2-3 things that reliably put a smile on your face - that bring you joy, that feel playful, fun? Overtime, we can do the same thing with more focus, more clarity aka with our Core Desired Feelings.

2. COLLECT. Give yourself a week or two {or more} to "collect" experiences + ideas. If it's a shit week, give yourself ttttiiiiimmmmmeeeee. But the thing about shit week's and so-called-shit-feelings is that they get us in touch with, you got it, FEELINGS. So sometimes it's a super juicy place to mine for the good stuff.

3. CAPTURE. Then, write 'em down lover. You're puttin' them in the I GOT THIS bank. This of it like your Soul's epic savings account.

4. COURAGE. You gots to be willing to interrupt the shitty thoughts, feelings, day. When we practice doing this, the ease in making this shift becomes smoother and smoother. Less resistance.

5. KINDNESS. There will be resistance. Be kind. Be curious vs. judgmental. You will 'want' to stay with the shitty feeling. Not consciously, no. Not intentionally, no. Not cuz we're pain-gluttons and want to suffer, no. It's a habit. A strong one. It's brain chemistry (negativity bias).

BACK TO FUELLING HAPPINESS

As part of the holiday launch of the #FuelHappiness campaign, I partnered with Lululemon Ottawa and kicked off a Random Acts of Kindness (get RAOK'd) project. Think of it like a ripple effect of loving-on our cOMmunity our OMmies. Reminding our Soul's how simple acts of love, kindness, generosity can be as powerful as any other epic thing we do in our lives. This goes for the people we love, work with, know deeply, AND the ones we barely even know, or don't know at all ... but yet, acknowledging that we are all walking this path together, having this human being experience together. The stories that flowed in from these 'random acts' blew my heart wide open. The creativity that radiated from the Lululmeon team as they came up with ideas to #FuelHappiness and spread kindness = mind + heart blown. 

We also hosted a Mindfulness Meditation Pop-up at the Rideau store, right at the peak of holiday shopping. Yes, a mindful mindset, mindful energy, mindful being is POSSIBLE. Anytime, anywhere. Meditation being another one of the 8 #FuelHappiness limbs. 

The list goes on!! 

What would your Random Act of Kindness project look like? Why wait?! Create your own little adventure, a social experiment, connection, love, kindness... it may just fuel your happiness, help you generate your core desired feelings, and start loosening the calcification around creativity and conscious creation of your own Core Desired Feelings!

WHAT'S MY POINT?!

Lululemon invested a ton of time + love + resources in building this #FUELHAPPINESS campaign ... and it lives on. Thank you!!!

Check it out. Soak in the awesome and see what resonates with you ::

http://www.lululemon.com/education/fuelhappiness

The resources are rich & delicious.

This whole human being thing ... it's an active process.

I believe, DEEPLY, that life doesn't happen to us. It happens for us.

When we choose to raise our awareness levels, observe, invest, and take aligned action we begin to actively engage, collaborate with, and choose to be conscious creators of our life -- living with purpose, on purpose.

What if we took our pleasure seriously, but didn't take ourselves too seriously? What might that look like? How might that feel?

xo